I know that sometimes life becomes so chaotic, crazy and frustrating that we often forget some real important things as parents. It is very easy for us to overlook the wonderful things that our teens are accomplishing and focus more so on the negative things. Yes, our teens need us to guide them in the right direction in life and ensuring that we point out what they are doing wrong is part of the job! However, we also must remember that it is equally important to point out the awesome and positive things that they do!
No parent is going to perfect at this... I know that I am certainly not! Many times I must take a step back and remind myself how important it is to communicate with my children in a positive way as much as possible. If you always focus on negative, you will get a lot of negative in return. If try to focus more on positive, you will get a lot of positive in return. It’s that simple. Even when you must point out a negative, make sure that you point out something positive in return! Children, especially teens, are super sensitive. You might not even realize how sensitive they are because they tend to hold A LOT of emotion in, until one day he or she bursts at the seems. This burst of emotion will often result in the teen rebelling and acting out in a negative way and it can lead to depression. So remember... your positive praise and recognition are essential to your teen’s well-being!
Sometimes the blessings are little embarrassed by my bursts of “Proud Mama Moments”!! BUT they have gotten used to them and I think that deep down inside... they actually love them!